211. Distance

so as i sit here typing and drinking a good old cup of green tea, im going to be talking about something that is close to my heart especially right now. NOT because i am going through it, even though sometimes i do, but because it is something that a lot of people go through, and i want to share my thoughts on it with you guys, whether it be with my 24 followers or no one. sometimes i just have to talk and this is a good place.



distance[ dis-tuh ns ] noun 1. the extent or amount of space between two things, points, lines, people etc. 
2. the state or fact of being apart in space, as of one thing from another; remoteness. 

 Distance is a sucky thing sometimes. i personally think that there are 2 ways to handle this.

1. The "I changed my mind and want to go home because i miss my friends and no one talks to me as much as they did" freak out.

This is the ideal thing for all of us to do. I mean we can go through the emotions of being far from the people we love. i know this feeling personally. i can tell you guys that i haven't talked to some of my friends from back home since i have left, and its only been 3 and a half months. thats it. I cant even imagine what it would be like to be gone for a year or 2 at this point. But you know what, distance provides new knowledge of who your true friends are and who has the guts to be your friend through anything and everything. I go through days when I don't work or have anything important to do and i just have mini freak out sessions about how no one cares and how all my best friends put me on the back burner because I'm not there, but then i realize that whatever time they have thats not busy doing something is the time where they send me texts or they skype me or whatever. You know what sometimes it isn't all about me. i may have mini freak out sessions and cry and all that jazz, but in the end, I'm just drowning myself in thoughts that are going to bring me down. This goes for everyone, if you cant handle the distance you aren't meant to leave.


 2. Go with the flow or else you'll be a depressed little elf.

 I mean ok so you moved away, and you keep in touch with people who really care, but there are days and even weeks where you don't get the chance to talk to let's say your best friend or your family or whoever. But look on the bright side, distance can be a good thing. It can be the time where you learn who you are and where you want to truly be. I have learned so much about who i am in these past few months. i go for weeks without talking to my mom or sister, but in the end i know that when i get back the relationship that we have will still be the same. Even with people like Jesse or Braeden or Letitia or whoever, i may go days, weeks, months without so little as a hi, but in the end, we are all growing day by day, and some days we may not have time to chat and im slowly getting ok with that. Im not saying that everyone will be ok with this, but i know that in due time we'll be talking as if i never left. So why not hold onto the things that make me happy for now? its hard. I'm not saying that its a walk in the park at all because its not, but why dwell on something that will take all the focus off of what you left to do? in times of feeling lonely, i know that i am not alone. i know that if i truly need someone i can just stop being lazy and pick up my phone. i am only a flight away.


so pretty much, don't dwell on something that will make you sad. Use the distance as a tool to work that much harder in your relationships. Some people are just scared of distance and thats why they dont talk to you as much. they want to hold onto the small memories that they have so that they don't ruin their friendship with you. everyone reacts differently. just go with it.